Trying to conceive. A mother's journey.
We recently shared a mother's TTC journey on Instagram and it resonated with a lot of our followers. This journey can be one of the most distressing, lonely and painful times of a woman's life. It can raise feelings of inadequacy and guilt, and most of the time, no one, except for your partner (unless you are going solo) is aware of the pain you are experiencing. One of the positives of social media platforms, is that people can share their stories and this can unite those of us who are following, or have experienced a similar path. The following is a recent post by @as_im_waiting and is an incredible insight into the journey of trying to fall pregnant.
“I’ve been feeling very alone in this journey lately and feeling like because I try my best to always remain positive & hopeful... that the truth of my pain is easily overlooked. People see another post of me standing strong, encouraging others & leaning on my faith.. and automatically assume that my heart is in a good place. And while I believe that often times it is, and the perception that I put out there is genuine... I think there’s a gap in people understanding that I can be strong & choosing to seek goodness, all while hurting immensely at the same time.
So I thought maybe it was a good opportunity to just put it out there, so no one has to guess or wonder what my heart is actually feeling. This photo is my reality. And because of it I’m hurting. And you know what, it sucks.
Being optimistic about my situation is something I have to focus on with a lot of INTENTION. I’m not positive & encouraging because Ive become accustomed to this journey & its no longer difficult for me. NO. In fact, I could sit on this page all day everyday and complain and cry and tell everyone how badly this situation blows... but what will that do? It’s a daily choice I have to make, to sit and wallow in my circumstances or to try my best to find the light.
I just want close this by clarifying that this is in no way me saying people don’t care. I think it’s just so easy for us as humans to see others being so brave, we forget they are actually suffering. So let’s try & change that. Tag someone on here that you know who is facing something, anything, even if the perception is that they are handling it okay, and let them know that you are here for them. Remember, just because someone carries it well, doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy.”